We have a huge old tree on our property, maybe hundreds of years old, and it bears the living scar from where a branch was removed decades ago. This scar forms a friendly whorl, full of moss and little shelves and my children decided several years ago that this was a secret fairy house, obviously, and much of their outdoor play is spent building furniture - flower chairs and petal blankets, little twig beds and polished stones for plates - for the fairies.
My Baby has a pragmatic soul. Where her older sister has always been like a flame or a ghost, a child of wind-hewn wildness, dark and brightness, The Baby is easily read and likes tea in pretty cups and sensible stories about turtles who need to learn to go to bed on time and told me this very morning "Mama, if you want a cozy kitchen, CLOSE THE FRONT DOOR." And yesterday she rummaged through The Fairy's Tree and finally said to me, despairingly, that she hadn't found ANY fairies at all.
When The Girl was six, she had this tremendously beautiful dress which looked odd and off-coloured on the hanger and then transformed into this beautiful shifting thing when she wore it, exactly the perfect thing for my fey, airy child:
I tucked the dress away and found it again yesterday when I was unpacking some hand-me-downs, shimmering oddly, and held it up for The Baby, who declared that it was ugly. She needs her own dress, the colour of sturdy trees that grow up, their roots firmly gripping the earth, the colour of her eyes that see so clearly, even when the truth is disappointing, her hands full of moss and not magic.
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
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Oh, Beck.
Oh, Beck!
Not only do you KNOW, really KNOW, your children, but you describe them so very beautifully.
Gorgeous! (and what SM said, entirely)
Whereas I already suspect my two girls will be exactly the opposite.
Beautiful.
Beautifully written--that said my odlest is SO like your baby, and middle child like your oldest. Somehow they make it work out and the oldest is content to pretend she believes in fairies and whatnot to help her sister along, but OH when she was little and would take the wind out of incredibly beautiful things saying, "Mom, it is JUST a movie."
Beautiful, I'm just sighing and will reread it several times today. I love fairies and fairy children all the better!
AND The Baby seems to have an endless supply of really cute boots and gorgeous flowing locks- what more could a girl ask for?
Just lovely! I thought of Catherine Earnshaw when I read your description of The Girl!
You always make me want to delete my blog altogether! Why would anyone want to read what I spew out when they can come here to all there beautiful words? Lovely, just lovely.
I loved the choice of words in this post; so very evocative.
Both of your girls sound entirely lovely, in their own unique way.
Beautiful, Beck, just beautiful!
My two girls are total opposites, too!
I am just going to say ditto to SM because she said it so well.
How lucky your girls are to have such a smart, insightful mommy.
Oh, but how did the Baby miss the faery hand that reached into the tree. . .?
That is a lovely, lovely essay. I hope your girls read it when they are young mothers themselves. . .
Gorgeous, beck. I have a pragmatic girl, too, and a fairy one--all woven up into one.
Yes, SM gets props for speaking for us all.
(I love her hair like that; so cute.)
Oh Beck.
I know I am copying Slouch, but it is unintentional because I was thinking Oh Beck before I saw Slouches opening to her comment.
so.
Oh Beck.
Its those differences I have been seeing. And celebrating in my girls.
I love that picture of the Baby. Her hair is so cute like that!
The second picture is The Girl a few years ago - The Baby will barely let me come near her with a BRUSH, let alone pin her hair up.... (but isn't that cute?)
Oh this was LOVELY, from the start with the description of the tree to the lovely description of those precious little people. It felt like a little holiday, somehow.
When I was young, I convinced my younger brother that fairies lived in the tree in our neighbor Elton's backyard and that when they needed to go somewhere they launched themselves in a rocket out of the tree. I think I may need to tell this story on my own blog... :)
first commenter nailed it. how do you do it?
I love how your girls are so different - what an adventure for you!
Th is so beautiful Beck. So keenly observant and loving and wonderful. Thank you.
you have a way wit thems words you:)
Ohmygoodness, I love this. Love this. Love this.
I think the way you know your children and write about them is a gift they will cherish in future years. In the meantime, we get to enjoy these love letters to your kids!
Beck, you are so poetic. No one else could describe a child playing outside with twigs and flowers with such beauty and grace.
I love how you are so in-tune with your kids... this is the definition of motherhood. Cool.
You've just described the differences between me and my husband. Except he doesn't wear dresses. I'm pretty sure.
I LOVE that picture! And yes, they are all so very very different. I love how you use the dress to picture that.
The descriptions of your dear ladies is just precious. Absolutely gorgeous. And the girl does look magical in that dress. Wow!
Great post!
what an unbelievably cute post! whereas i'm usually all crabby and sarcastic in my blog postings! we go with our strengths though i suppose. :)
I think what The Baby needs -- instead of, or in addition to the dress -- is a pair of boots. Steel toed army boots. Or a pair shit kickering cowboy boots. Something that declares, "Look Out World. Ready or Not Here I Come."
Until then, I dig her orange gum boots. And her pragmatism.
What a beautiful post! Very poetic.
She looks like a fairy in that picture.
The Baby is very wise. You can't fool around with that girl!
Lovely post, Beck.
One of my favorite things about having children is their individuality. They may be from the same family, and certainly have physical and personality traits that I can mark out as having come from one family member or another, but they are each their own unique person. Seeing it every day, watching as some new layer of who they are unfolds, is a little like opening a gift.
Ohhhhhhhhhhhh BEAUTIFUL. Beautiful beautiful beautiful.
Lovely post. I especially love how you give equal kudos to both your girls for the way they see life.
Some days I think my girls are more alike than different and others they could not be more opposite.
I love The Girls hair! I do that too for Papoosie Girl and it is so cute!
I love this, that you got it so right, AND that they are these two very real and interesting people.
Oh so lovely! Both your babies and your writing. So wonderful.
You are a great mom! You are like a magical camera, capturing every detail that's from the inside of your children....
Isn't fun how children in the SAME family can be so DIFFERENT? :)
Such sweet little fairy princesses you have! And a way with words as well...
what a gorgeous, gorgeous post, B.
I'm single parenting all month and getting a house ready to sell, in addition to house hunting and pre-school shopping in a city 3 hours away. But then I make a point of stopping by this blog and all the stress melts away. Thank you Beck.
So lovely, Beck.
I'm looking forward to discovering the differences in my boys.
Absolutely beautiful!! And I think my daughter had that very same dress.
how do you come up with such wonderfully-written posts day after day?
Good grief you need to write a book. Your words are just so inspired and...man, I can't even describe how they make me feel without using some stupid plebian clunky words.
You rock. I can't wait to see The Baby's dress.
Soooo ... the comment from the Darling Library is actually me. Ack! I was signed on in my librarian persona because I was writing a blog post about LibraryThing and how cool it is and then started skipping around to look at the blogs I read in my everyday-its-just-me persona and managed to comment as a library instead of a person. I guess I'll have to pay attention to my login next time. So much for my skills at multi-tasking.
how wonderful that you see and honor the differences in your children
Of course, you must know that I LOVE that photo of the Girl. She is such a pretty thing. And that Baby is just the cutest!
Your words are magic on the screen. Love it!
So beautiful - the Girl, the Baby and the post. :) You're my writing hero.
Fey and airy. Bestill my heart.
Did you ever read Cold Comfort Farm? You must.
I think this is one of my favorite posts of yours.
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